tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9307746354387100052024-03-13T02:09:24.264-07:00Surviving Female FriendshipsSurviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.comBlogger153125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-18591338149897713042016-08-14T12:10:00.002-07:002016-08-14T12:10:59.165-07:00UpdateThank you for your interest in my blog! For all the latest posts, please view my <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Surviving-Female-Friendships-839907162798307/?ref=hl">Facebook page</a>.<br />
<br />Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-70870615868104161702016-07-19T11:11:00.001-07:002016-07-19T11:11:58.206-07:00Minions and Friendship<a href="https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=930774635438710005" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a><a href="https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=930774635438710005" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a><br />
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<br />Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-28770864344922316172016-06-28T08:35:00.001-07:002016-06-28T08:35:34.148-07:00Men and FriendshipsIn <a href="https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/nation/strictly-platonic-friendships-with-women-are-important-for-men">Why Every Man Needs Platonic Female Friends</a> by Jeremy Glass, the age old question, "Can men be friends with women?" is explored in a positive way.<br />
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Glass discusses the benefits of men having platonic female friends, which include healthy communication skills, a greater understanding of the opposite sex, as well as learning how to balance friendships and romantic relationships.<br />
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An excerpt:<br />
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<i>"One of the coolest parts of guys having female friends is the wisdom
they glean from having what Dr. Walsh calls "an insider view of the
other gender." </i></div>
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<i>OK, not every male friend is going to be able to tell you why so many dudes love Buffalo chicken and the movie Gladiator, and not every female friend is going to take the time to explain what bobby pins are and how exactly they work. </i></div>
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<i>When you're dating someone, you get an abbreviated view
of how his or her mind works. My female friends always help me figure
out how I've accidentally offended my girlfriend when I'm feeling
particularly clueless. Did you know that women don't like it when you
fall asleep in front of the TV during date night?"</i></div>
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What do you think? Can men and women just be friends?<i> </i> </div>
Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-87828810893776877172016-06-07T11:15:00.000-07:002016-06-07T11:15:40.771-07:00Test Your Friendship Health Knowledge!Take this <a href="http://www.webmd.com/healthy-aging/social-ties-16/rm-quiz-health-benefits-friendship">quiz </a>to see how much you know about the health benefits of friendship.<br />
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<span id="goog_362750419"></span><span id="goog_362750420"></span><br />Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-74404604329095966812016-05-17T12:38:00.001-07:002016-05-17T12:38:51.099-07:00Friendships and MotherhoodIn <a href="https://www.thestar.com/life/2016/04/24/how-being-a-new-mom-can-change-old-friendships.html">How being a new mom can change old friendships</a> by Lauren Pelley, the topic of parents and their kid-free friends is explored. The article also includes "mom confessions," where women share their experiences of becoming a new mom and how it impacted their friendships. It's a fun read!<br />
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An excerpt from the article: <br />
<i>"Poop problems aside, motherhood in general throws a wrench in
friendships. But as conversations turn from Tinder dates to diaper
changes and quick coffee catch-ups replace late-night dinners, experts
say friends without kids need to be sensitive to how much a new mom’s
life has changed overnight — while moms need to make effort to keep old
friendships strong."</i>Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-68918655271832664442016-04-26T10:25:00.000-07:002016-04-26T10:25:19.165-07:00Nicknames and FriendshipI was recently approached by a journalist about what to do when you hate your nickname and your friends continue to use it. This question was unusual and stumped me for a few days. After much thought, I realized this may be something that many women go through, but is rarely discussed. My advice was simple: talk to your friends and be honest about how the nickname upsets/bothers you, and ask them to stop. If they can't honor your request, ask them why not and how they'd feel if the shoe were on the other foot. If they still can't stop using the name that makes smoke come out of your ears, then you may need to re-evaluate your friendships. <br />
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Here's her article:<br />
<a href="http://www.refinery29.uk/when-you-hate-your-nickname">What To do When You Hate Your Nickname</a> by Franki CookneySurviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-30029812132163917862016-04-05T12:03:00.001-07:002016-04-05T12:03:37.585-07:00Finding Friends on a Dating Website? Wait, What?!Good friends are hard to find. We all know this fact, especially as we get older. <a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2016/03/28/looking-for-friends-on-a-dating-app-is-awkward-but-it-worked/">In Looking for friends on a dating app is awkward. But it worked</a>. by Abby Green, we get an inside look at one brave woman's experience using <a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2016/03/08/dating-apps-are-expanding-their-reach-swipe-for-friends-on-bumble-or-match-make-on-tinder/?tid=a_inl">Bumble BFF</a>.<br />
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An excerpt:<br />
<i>"Meeting new people and facing the fear of rejection doesn’t get easier when it’s platonic rather than romantic, I realized. But on this friend-date, it felt like we were saying what we meant — and romantic dates don’t often feel that way.</i><br />
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<i>With friendship, we have many vacancies and can fill those spots with different types of people. But with romantic love, people are usually looking for one person, which means there’s a lot of pressure to present the best version of yourself on dates."</i><br />
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In today's day and age, it seems we're more open to online dating and meeting people in less traditional ways. Why not meet friends this way?<br />
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Would you consider trying this app? </div>
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<br />Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-42281411884102842942016-02-23T09:35:00.000-08:002016-02-23T09:35:00.532-08:00Friendship and WorkHave you ever run into a sticky situation with your work friends and been unsure how to manage? Read <a href="https://www.dailyworth.com/posts/4136-how-to-deal-with-awkward-social-situations-at-work/1">How to Handle Awkward Situations With Your Work Friends</a> by Natasha Burton for some common situations and how to deal with them.<br />
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<i>"You’re Close With Your Boss — and You Get Into a Fight <span id="docs-internal-guid-2eed9f25-a31f-6697-4c77-4071f4ab9716"> </span></i><br />
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<i><span id="docs-internal-guid-2eed9f25-a31f-6697-4c77-4071f4ab9716">Perhaps
your boss is like a mentor to you, or maybe you two have connected on a
deeper level and spend time together outside of work. Unfortunately,
this connection doesn't shield you from disagreements. Nor does it
change that fact that she’s your boss.</span></i><i> </i><br />
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<i>If a conflict comes up, stay professional and
friendly rather than jumping on the defensive. If the conflict was small
— like a disagreement that got a little more aggressive than necessary —
send a quick email to smooth things over. If the situation escalated to
the point of hurt feelings or unprofessional behavior, schedule a time
to talk about it outside the office. Having some time to cool off and
the ability to talk away from your desks will give you a better chance
of emerging with your working relationship and your friendship intact."</i><br />
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Good advice!</div>
Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-37513785076164625392016-02-09T09:27:00.002-08:002016-02-09T09:27:46.922-08:00Roommate DilemmaIs your roommate kicking you out so her significant other can move in?! Read this article below on how to manage such an awkward situation!<br />
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<a href="http://roomiconnect.com/what-to-do-when-youre-ousted-for-your-roommates-s-o/">What do Do When You're Ousted for Your Roommate's S.O.</a> by Emma GoddardSurviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-41851240923064355062016-01-26T11:42:00.001-08:002016-01-26T11:42:45.385-08:00ArticlesBelow are two articles I was interviewed for. I hope you enjoy!<br />
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<a href="http://mic.com/articles/123689/what-its-like-to-go-to-couples-therapy-with-your-adult-bff#.NeqN7QAyG">What It's Like To Go To Couples Therapy With Your Adult BFF</a> by Jenny Kutner<br />
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<a href="http://www.rewireme.com/relationships/making-moves-work/">Making Moves Work For You</a> by Dinsa SachanSurviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-33821836813880035342016-01-12T09:55:00.002-08:002016-01-12T09:55:43.527-08:00Ted Talk: Jane Fonda and Lily TomlinIf you haven't watched this awesome video, here's your chance! <br />
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<br />Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-34164416025226498192015-12-22T10:53:00.002-08:002015-12-22T10:53:44.859-08:00Female Friendship MythsI came across a fantastic article that debunks female friendship myths:<br />
<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rori-boyce/top-4-myths-about-female-friendship_b_5000766.html">The Top 4 Myths About Female Friendships</a> by Rori Boyce<br />
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Movies and television shows don't exactly portray female friendships in the most realistic way, so Boyce clarifies some of these common myths. Below is an excerpt of myth #2 and #3:<br />
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<i>"<b>Myth #2: Being Friends Means Being in Constant Contact (Facebook Doesn't Count)</b><br />
Honestly, I haven't had this kind of friendship since I was in college
and it was much easier back then because we all lived in the same dorm,
took the same classes, and did the same thing on Friday night. And yet, I
have found myself questioning how "good" my friendships are because I
don't have this kind of constant daily contact with the friends I would
consider the closest. </i><br />
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<i>In truth, some days I don't even have
anything all that interesting to share with my husband, who lives in the
same house, shares most aspects of my life, and does the same thing I
do on Friday night. So the idea that I would have something meaningful
to share with my friends that often seems a little silly. It is okay to
have as much or as little contact as each individual friendship
requires. Not talking every day or even every week is not a sign that
you aren't good friends; it is a sign that you are grown women with busy
lives. </i><br />
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<i><b>Myth #3: Real Friendships are Easy to Sustain</b><br />
The older I have grown, the less true this has become. There was a time
that friendships just "were" and I didn't have to work too hard to make
them or sustain them... it was called high school and had everything to
do with proximity. But in the grown-up world, we are raising children,
running errands, and hoping to find a single hour for ourselves so we
can go to yoga. This leaves little time for female bonding, heartfelt
chats, and girls night out. </i><br />
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<i>In truth, having friends, keeping
friends, and especially making new friends requires time, energy, and
effort. We live in a world where meeting new people and establishing new
relationships of any kind is hard work. This is why so many people have
turned to online dating to find a mate. Friendships are no different
than romantic relationships in this regard which is why <a href="http://blog.socialjane.com/" target="_hplink">websites geared toward helping people make friends</a>
are flourishing. Let go of the idea that "real" friendship only happens
organically; it is as mythical as the idea that all you need to make a
marriage work is love." </i><br />
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It's important to examine these myths since a lot of women put pressure on themselves for not having a gazillion friends or for not seeing their friends every week. Especially as we get older and have limited time, friendships will ebb and flow, which is not a good or bad thing...it is what it is. The more we acknowledge the reality of our friendships and let go of these unobtainable expectations, the more we appreciate the people in our life and allow the friendship to flow naturally. Furthermore, as long as we're putting ourselves out there, reaching out to our friends and investing time and energy, the friendship will maintain itself. There is no "perfect" friendship, and if we're willing and able to accept that, we'll find we are much happier in our relationships.<br />
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What do you think about the article? Do you agree with these myths?Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-23829847512937701522015-12-01T13:14:00.000-08:002015-12-01T13:14:01.339-08:00Book Signing!<span class="fsl">Downtown Mesa just set up their holiday decorations.
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/427725737418784/">Bonny Books</a> will be hosting a few of your favorite authors and Downtown
will have 20 artists unveiling public art and 10 live bands in shops or
on Main Street. <br /> <br /> Author Lineup:<br /> 6pm - 7pm Linda Smock<br /> 7pm - 8pm Nicole Zangara<br /> 8pm - 9pm To Be Announced</span> <br />
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Where:<br />
Lulubell Toy Bodega<br />
128 W Main Street<br />
Mesa, AZ 85201<br />
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Hope to see you there!Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-76898287013470223692015-11-10T09:54:00.000-08:002015-11-10T09:54:39.388-08:00The Power of FemshipFemship...that's right, ladies. Here's a term you need to start using with your best friends. I came across a fantastic article that explores positive benefits of female friendship...er, femship: <a href="http://mic.com/articles/119292/how-strong-female-friendships-help-women-get-ahead">Women With Strong Female Friendships Have a Surprising Advantage Over The Rest of Us</a> by Elizabeth Plank.<br />
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An excerpt from the article:<br />
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<i>"Having each other's backs makes women unstoppable. The
femship might be key to providing women with the critical mass they
need to reach parity with men. "Female friendship helps women get the
upper hand in the world," Sklar explained. "It's advantageous for me
when my bestie does well. Not only does it make me look good that I'm
hanging out with a baller, or shall I say an egger, but it also
increases my own sense of opportunity because the opportunities for me
improve, too."</i></div>
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<i>She's right. When women work together, they also
succeed together. So although we love to snack on slideshows of Beyoncé
and Jay Z's latest tropical vacation while we impatiently await Amal and
George Clooney's impending world domination, the thought of seeing more
female friendship pop in our newsfeeds should make us giddy.
Celebrating friendship, rather than competition, between women will help
the next generation of women embrace, rather than resent, the strong
women around them. In a world still ridden with gender inequality,
femships may be the game-changer we've been waiting for. Cheers a Big
Mac with your bestie to that."</i></div>
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Women are shown in the media as either in competition with each other or fighting over a man. That's not so accurate in reality.<i> </i>Plank shows pictures of femships, such as Tina Fey and Amy Poehler, Serena Williams and Caroline Wozniacki, as well as Nicki Minaj and Beyonce. These are some great femship role models that exhibit healthy friendships, as well as healthy competition. <br />
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When we're around strong women, it encourages us to become stronger as well. We learn to work together for a common goal and to push each other to become our best selves. Behold, the femship! </div>
Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-36728839708528665362015-10-27T12:28:00.001-07:002015-10-27T12:28:51.470-07:00Friendship Break UpsI came across this article, which covers such a sad, but common topic I get asked about when discussing female friendship: <a href="http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/Best-Friend-Break-Up">The Day My Best Friend Broke Up With Me</a> by Annabelle Gurwitch<br />
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Gurwitch shares her friendship break up story, and how she learned a lot about herself through the process.<br />
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Hope you find the article as interesting as I did.Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-79290994962883605762015-10-13T13:18:00.001-07:002015-10-13T13:18:47.414-07:00Friendship Quotes/Images"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one."<br />
<i>―C.S. Lewis</i><br />
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"There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate." <i>―Linda Grayson</i><br />
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<br />Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-928163465195899182015-09-29T11:36:00.001-07:002015-09-29T11:36:59.164-07:00Life's Too Short For Crappy FriendsI stumbled upon this great article with a very direct and well-said point: life's too short for crappy friends.<br />
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In the <a href="http://www.babble.com/parenting/dear-girls-life-is-too-short-for-crappy-friends/" target="_blank">article</a>,
Anna Lind Thomas explores what it means to have a good friend versus a
crappy one. She gives a positive
message to women who may be struggling with being the "cool" or
"popular" ones, and why it's important to live your life for you,
instead of constantly seeking approval from others. The more you improve yourself,
the more others want to be around you and you'll have meaningful,
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An excerpt from the article:<br />
<i>"There are obvious signs you might be in a friendship you shouldn’t be
in. Obvious signs could include that the person makes you feel bad
about yourself, you’re constantly paranoid about losing the friendship,
or the person blatantly uses you and may even be mean and verbally
abusive towards you from time to time.</i><br />
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<i>But there are subtle signs too. They don’t outwardly treat you badly,
but there’s just something about the way they interact with you that
makes you feel inadequate. Sometimes you decide to hide certain aspects
of yourself because you’re not convinced they’ll like or accept all of
you. Sometimes you’ll start compromising your values to have something
in common. Sometimes you find yourself acting like the person you think
they want to be friends with rather than just being the precious being
you are.</i><br />
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<i>Sometimes, even though you’re surrounded by “friends,” you start to feel
lonely and insecure. They’re your friends, but the friendship has
limits. Maybe your feelings don’t matter if they inconvenience them or
if you ever share that they have hurt your feelings, they decide you’re a
little too exhausting to keep around."</i><br />
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It's not worth it or healthy to
keep a
friendship that makes you feel bad or inferior. The goal is to have
friends who lift you up, make you smile after a difficult day and
appreciate all of your (good and bad) qualities. I agree with Thomas in
that I'd rather have one great friend than many who are fake and
catty. That one friendship would provide a lifetime of positive
experiences than having many friends who would drain, exhaust or cause tension. Who wants that?!
Life is waaaaay too short for crappy friends!</div>
Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-88809384969756598702015-09-15T11:58:00.001-07:002015-09-15T11:58:33.739-07:00Friendship and TherapyCheck out this article I was interviewed for:<br />
<a href="https://www.the-pool.com/life/life-honestly/2015/30/does-your-friendship-need-therapy">Does your friendship need therapy</a> by Anna North<br />
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We often think of couples going to counseling, not friends. This article explores why therapy may be helpful for those friendships that need an outside perspective. As a therapist myself, I think it's a great idea, as it would improve the overall quality of the friendship, including any issues with communication. If the friendship is worth saving, therapy would be a logical next step.<br />
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What do you think? Would you seek therapy with your friend?Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-48426205928745334982015-09-01T12:13:00.000-07:002015-09-01T12:18:31.949-07:00Another Reason I Like Mindy Kaling...If you're a fan of Mindy Kaling, you'll like this article:<br />
<a href="http://guardianlv.com/2015/05/mindy-kaling-is-right-friends-are-hard-to-find/">Mindy Kaling Is Right, Friends Are Hard to Find</a> by Dyanne Weiss<br />
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The article asks the question that I get asked all of the time: As adults, how do we make friends?<br />
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An excerpt from the article:<br />
<i>"Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, has written
a lot about the difficulty of making friends. She suggests that people
join or form a group that at least have one common interest – e.g., the
yoga class, a book group and other things that at least give one
exposure to someone new. The key thing is to keep trying, do not be
afraid to seek people out (and possibly get rejected), and make the
effort to keep the friendship going. Some people never initiate outings,
but welcome the invitation; so keep inviting.</i><br />
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</i><i>Kaling confided to fans at the event, “The only thing I want to do in
the next five years is make a new good friend.” I can relate. As we get
older, it gets hard to find good friends with are just right for where
your life is at are heading and, for Mindy Kaling, being in the public
eye does not help."</i><br />
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It does take putting yourself out there to make friends. Another way I've found helpful is meeting people through your friends' friends and getting to know them. This allows your social circle to expand through your various networks of existing friends, as that is most easily accessible to you. The goal is to keep trying and to not give up.<br />
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It's also validating to know that even Mindy struggles with this.<i> </i>Hey, Mindy, we could be friends?!Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-3679829403100012742015-08-18T11:56:00.000-07:002015-08-18T11:56:07.110-07:00Long-Distance FriendshipsI came across this article on why long-distance friendships are awesome, which I couldn't agree more! One of my best friends from graduate school lives in another state and our friendship has never been stronger because we both put in the effort and time to keep it going through emails, phone calls and text messages.<br />
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<a href="http://elitedaily.com/life/best-friends-withstand-distance/1095900/">10 Reasons Why Long-Distance Friendships Make For The Strongest Bonds</a> by Kirsten Corley<br />
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What's been your experience with long-distance friendships? Do you agree with the article? Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-76961371196844704292015-08-04T12:48:00.002-07:002015-08-04T12:48:51.009-07:00Upcoming Ladies BrunchIf you are in the Phoenix area on Saturday, August 15th, please attend a ladies brunch presented by Bonny Books at the Dobson Ranch Saratoga Recreation Center in Mesa. I'll be speaking on the topic of female friendship.<br />
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Cost: $25<br />
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Time: 10 am to 12 pm <br />
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You can sign up and buy tickets on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/1619241988358051/">Facebook </a>or on <a href="http://bonnybooks.com/workshops.html">Bonny Books</a>.<br />
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Hope to see you there!Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-67618200059904064042015-07-21T12:29:00.001-07:002015-07-21T12:29:33.512-07:00Her Campus ArticleI'm excited to share an article I was interviewed for by <a href="http://www.hercampus.com/">Her Campus</a>:<br />
<a href="http://www.hercampus.com/life/family-friends/5-signs-its-time-end-friendship">5 Signs It's Time to End a Friendship</a> by Lillian Skye Noble<br />
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Feel free to leave comments about the article! :-)Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-55611507337782889612015-07-07T11:25:00.000-07:002015-07-07T11:25:25.089-07:00Fun Female Friendship Images/Quotes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Surviving Female Friendshipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06821659948626001685noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-930774635438710005.post-19257136369546831692015-06-23T09:52:00.002-07:002015-06-23T09:52:48.359-07:00Follow-up to Mighty Married Moms Interview<a href="http://mightymarriedmoms.com/">Mighty Married Moms</a> come together for a follow-up discussion after their interview with me. Check it out!<br />
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You can also can <a href="http://mightymarriedmoms.com/category/friends/">listen </a>to the interview.<br />
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