How to Overcome Jealousy Within Friendships by Karen Kleinschmidt
We don't like to admit that we get jealous of our friends, but let's be honest: we do! Maybe a friend recently got an amazing job promotion or is now dating a very handsome and funny guy OR maybe your friend just won the lottery (hey, stranger things have happened!). It's normal to feel conflicting feelings for our friends; we feel happy for them but at the same time, we feel jealous. As it says below, I believe it's important to acknowledge what you're feeling, and if you feel comfortable, to let your friend know. If you don't, it will start to feel like there's a polka-dotted pink and blue elephant in the room. In other words, it would be hard to ignore!
An excerpt from the article:
Regarding Step 3, I think it would depend on the friend. If it's a close friend, I would tell her how I'm feeling rather than pretend I'm feeling something I'm not. For example, you could say, "I'm thrilled for you but it's bringing up my own struggles with being single/jobless/whatever the situation may be. I hope you can understand." In genuine friendships it's important to be truthful about your feelings instead of hiding them. If it's more of an acquaintance, I'd force myself to put my feelings aside and try to figure out what's going on with me.
What do you think? Have you ever felt jealous of a friend? If so, did you tell her?