Ever since the book came out, I've received feedback about how it's made women think about friendships throughout their lives, as well as who is in their lives now. The goal of this blog is to open up and create a dialogue about friendships: the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Each week I will post my thoughts, experiences, as well as various articles, topics or quotes that I feel are important when examining female friendships. Please feel free to leave comments; I look forward to hearing from you!

Email me: survivingfemalefriendships@gmail.com

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Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Huffington Post Articles

I'm thrilled to share these articles that were featured on Huffington Post!

Girl Fight or Cat Fight?
I discuss the latest New Girl episode and how female friendship is portrayed.

The Inquisition of Singledom at Holiday Parties
Not a female friendship-related article, but I'm sure many women can relate to my candid experience of being single around the holidays.


Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Friendship Breakups

I want to share an article I was sent by a new(ish) friend.  I have known this woman for quite some time, but only recently got to know her better through spending time with her at a women's expo (see last month's post on women's expo).

In Why Ending A Friendship Is So Much Harder Than Ending A Romantic Relationship, Kat George does a fabulous (and realistic) job pointing out how difficult friendship breakups are, as well as reasons why they are so challenging to experience.  I address these issues in my book, including how similar friendships are to romantic relationships in terms of how close we can get to our friend, and how painful and devastating the breakup can feel.

Below are two excerpts from the article:
 "Over time, all relationships change. Friends come and go, most of them without much ceremony. One minute you’re partying with Irina, and the next minute you’re brunching with Georgia. There’s no hard feelings, but rather a recognition that as you grow up, schedules fill quickly, and long absences from friends aren’t necessarily earth shattering or revelatory. It’s the circle of social life. But what happens when you consciously and dramatically de-friend someone that was especially close to you is absolutely cataclysmic. When that one person, your BFF perhaps, to whom you text every mundanity of your every day life, who knows you inside and out, whose side you are always by, betrays you, hurts you, or otherwise removes themselves from your life in some very obvious capacity, it can be more destructive that the loss of any romantic partner you’ve ever experienced."

"At the end of a relationship, “getting back on the horse” is one of the best and most helpful things you can do. Starting to date again can be scary, but it’s also wildly fun and at least very distracting. Finding a new friend is not that easy. People just don’t prioritize “new friends” the way they did when they were younger, so between existing friends, personal relationships and careers, it can be very difficult to meet a new potential BFF. There’s no OKCupid for friendship." 

Friendship breakups are emotionally tough and that's why it's incredibly important to give yourself time to grieve and process all of your emotions.  In my book, I go into more depth about letting go, and helpful ways to do so.

How have you managed a friendship breakup? 

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

More Friendship Articles

Having a hard time figuring out whether your friend is acting more like a frenemy?  Can't stand your friend's friends?  Are you moving and afraid to start over?  Is your friend too busy to spend time with you and you don't know how to handle it?  I've got you covered with the below articles!

How To Tell If She's A Friend Or Frienemy on Ladylux.com

5 Ways To Tolerate Your Friend's Friends by Danielle Page

The Secret to Finding Friends After Moving by Ellena Fortner Newsom

5 Ways To Deal With A Friend Who's Always Busy by Danielle Page


Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Thoughts About Women's Expo

A few weekends ago, I attended the Arizona Ultimate Women's Expo as an exhibitor, where I sold and signed my book alongside two other female authors.  As women would pass by the booth and catch a glimpse of my book's title, it was interesting to watch the reactions, which ranged from laughter to some funny comment said to the woman they came to the event with to "OMG! That is so true!" to "I have no female friends."  Yes, it was quite a range! 

What surprised me the most was when women would walk up to the booth and state that they couldn't relate to the book's title because they had no female friends.  I tend to be direct and outgoing, so I simply asked them why that was so.  Answers ranged from: "Females are drama" to "Females are b$%^&@s" (said in a very matter of fact way) to some other choice curse word about females.  Not only was I surprised by these answers, but I was also sad that these women haven't had positive experiences, and because of that, they stay away from other females....very far, far away.

This is one of the many reasons I wrote this book: to have an open discussion about these experiences we've all had, and to not let these experiences stop you from seeking and then having healthy, positive female friendships.  It was clear that a lot of these women at the expo had a story regarding female friendship; a story most likely negative, and even emotionally painful, and thus, that is why they reacted the way they did to the book's title.

To these women, I want to say that things can change.  That you don't have to be afraid of having female friendships, and when you seek healthy people, you will have healthy relationships.  Yes, females can be drama, they can be mean, and they can be difficult...but so can males!  It's important and fulfilling to have female friends.  So, reach out to an old friend, or get out there and meet some new people.  Get out of your comfort zone and maybe, just maybe, you'll learn that females aren't so bad.  And then you'll finally understand and be able to relate to my book!

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Arizona Ultimate Women's Expo

If you're in the Phoenix area on October 18th and 19th, please come to the Ultimate Women's Expo at the Phoenix Convention Center.  I'll be selling and signing my book!  Look for the 3 Wise and Wordy Women booth.

Details below:
Arizona Ultimate Women's Expo

Hope to see you there!

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Recent Survey on Women

I came across this article, which I found very interesting:
Do Female Friends Trump Romantic Relationships?

An excerpt from the article:
"In honor of National Women's Friendship Month, which is observed during September, Skout, the leading global social network for meeting new people, recently conducted a survey among women to uncover the latest trends and habits around women's friendship in today's digital society. Skout, which helps its users expand their social circles, made more than 500 million connections among its users in 2013.

More than 3,800 women who use Skout participated in the National Women's Friendship Month survey. Key findings include: 

  • The Internet is changing how we meet close friends.  83% of women say they have a good friend who they have met online but never in-person.

  • Friends from childhood will always be special.  62% of women surveyed say one of their closest friends is someone they met as a child.

  • Friends trump romance.  55% of women say their relationship with a best friend is more important than one with a romantic partner.

  • Mobile devices and the Internet are key to staying in touch with close friends.  88% of women say they communicate with their close friends several times per week (in fact, 53% do so every day!).  68% of women say they primarily use their mobile phones or the Internet to communicate with close friends."

What do you think of the findings?  Do you agree or disagree?

Click on the link above to see the rest of the findings.

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

More Friendship Articles To Share!

Are you unhappy with a friendship, but unsure how to end it?  Would you like to start a business with your friend, but feel hesitant about it?  Do you not approve of or get along with your friend's fiancĂ© and struggle with what to do?  Lucky for you, there's solutions to these tricky situations!  Check out these friendship articles I was interviewed for:

5 Signs You Should End A Friendship by Danielle Page

How to Start a Business With Your Friend - and Stay Friends by Natasha Burton

Should You "Speak Now" About Your Friend's Fiancé? by Danielle Page