Ever since the book came out, I've received feedback about how it's made women think about friendships throughout their lives, as well as who is in their lives now. The goal of this blog is to open up and create a dialogue about friendships: the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Each week I will post my thoughts, experiences, as well as various articles, topics or quotes that I feel are important when examining female friendships. Please feel free to leave comments; I look forward to hearing from you!

Email me: survivingfemalefriendships@gmail.com

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Tuesday, April 14, 2015

How To Date and Spend Time With Your Friends

I came across an article that discusses what many of us experience when we're dating: trying to keep up with your friendships while in a romantic relationship.  In 3 Ways to Maintain Your Friendships While Falling in Love, Gabriel offers great suggestions to make it work.

An excerpt: 
"Integrate Your Life

There seems to be an ever increasing trend of separating out the many different people in our lives. By the time we graduate from college, many of us will have college friends, high-school friends, work friends, and then our boyfriend. But it’s no wonder we can find balancing friendships stressful—we are literally juggling them, refusing to let them bump into one another. Quit the circus and let your friends mix; it makes it easier on you and gives your friends the opportunity to broaden their own circles.
My brother-in-law does this and I think it’s genius. Send out a Google Calendar or Facebook invite to all of your friends and then sit back and relax. Your friends will make new contacts while you touch base with a handful of your friends. If you’re sick of happy hours, try arranging a hike. Hiking provides an excellent and  natural way for people to mingle; you are usually walking two-by-two, but inevitably, someone falls behind and another person moves up!

It is a shame that more people don’t regularly double date. Invite your friend and her boyfriend for dinner or even just after-dinner drinks. If your friend is single, have your boyfriend produce a single friend to bring along too. This conveniently allows you to spend time with your boyfriend and girlfriend in a natural way and provides an opportunity for your friends to get to know your boyfriend—which helps when you need a second opinion."

Would you offer any other suggestions?  What works for you?

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Happy Galentine's Day!

I realize I'm a month late (hey, better late than never!), but found this great article about best friends in the music industry. Would you add any other BFFs?

Happy Galentine's Day! 18 Female Friendships in Music by Jeff Benjamin and Ariel LeBeau

Tuesday, March 17, 2015


I'm excited to share an article that ran in the March 2015 NASW (National Association of Social Workers) newsletter:
Social Work in the Public Eye

(Scroll down to the bottom of the page to view the article.)

If you haven't read the article it's referring to, click the link below:
Why is it difficult to make friends after 30?

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Upcoming Radio Interview

Mark your calendars!  I'll be interviewed on the radio by Francesca Luca on March 7th about my book.

Details below:
Saturday 3/7/15 from 7-8:00 am on 1510 AM WMEX RADIO Boston and 106.1 FM Newburyport
Talk With Francesca

OR after the interview airs, click on the link below to listen in if you're not in these areas:
Recent Shows

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Fun Friendship Book

If you're looking for an entertaining and amusing activity to do with your BFFs, I'd recommend getting your hands on 101 Quizzes for BFFs: Crazy Fun Tests To See Who Knows Best! by Natasha Burton.  You can choose from "would you still hang out with me if..." questions and hypothetical "what would you do" situations to truth and dare type of questions and scenarios.  There's also situations in which you have to think fast and give the answer that comes right to your mind.  I like how Burton states in the introduction that there is no right or wrong way to use the book, and that some of the scenarios and questions may not apply to you and your friend.  Therefore, you're welcome to use the book how you see fit based on the type and level of friendship.

I couldn't wait go through the book with one of my best friends, who lives in another state.  I asked some silly questions and then would ask the more serious ones.  By the second or third question, we were giggling like children when she would share her answers.   I liked the variety and how some of the questions led to interesting discussions.  I also gained more knowledge about my best friend, which I appreciated.

Old or young, this book provides an opportunity to get even closer to your BFF (yes, it's possible!) and of course, have a good time!  You may find out even more juicy information about your friend and vice versa.  So go ahead and invite your BFFs over, get Burton's book and be prepared to laugh...A LOT!