Ever since the book came out, I've received feedback about how it's made women think about friendships throughout their lives, as well as who is in their lives now. The goal of this blog is to open up and create a dialogue about friendships: the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Each week I will post my thoughts, experiences, as well as various articles, topics or quotes that I feel are important when examining female friendships. Please feel free to leave comments; I look forward to hearing from you!
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Tuesday, February 17, 2015
The Break Up with Anything Guide by Tanya Sharma
Be a Better Long-Distance Friend by Natasha Burton
Why is it difficult to make friends after 30? by Jaci Conry
Are You Compromising Too Often In Your Friendships? by Danielle Page
Tuesday, February 3, 2015
Tuesday, January 20, 2015
I couldn't wait go through the book with one of my best friends, who lives in another state. I asked some silly questions and then would ask the more serious ones. By the second or third question, we were giggling like children when she would share her answers. I liked the variety and how some of the questions led to interesting discussions. I also gained more knowledge about my best friend, which I appreciated.
Old or young, this book provides an opportunity to get even closer to your BFF (yes, it's possible!) and of course, have a good time! You may find out even more juicy information about your friend and vice versa. So go ahead and invite your BFFs over, get Burton's book and be prepared to laugh...A LOT!
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
Some people agree with what I wrote, such that they also could not get into the show; while others expressed reasons why they like the show.
What are your thoughts?
Tuesday, December 23, 2014
7 Amazing Things You Gain When You Don't Have A 'Best Friend' In Your 20s by Rebecca Adams
Adams discusses the reality of getting older, including how we become busier with work responsibilities and family life, as well as how time is more limited. Instead of looking at this transitional time as a negative experience, she puts a positive spin on the wonderful things that can happen.
Below are two of the seven things you gain:
"You make room for new types of relationships.
If you and your bestie are finishing each other's sentences, it might be hard for anyone else to enter the picture, platonically or otherwise. As your relationship with your best friend matures, you'll become more accessible to people, even ones who've been around all along. Maybe you'll finally grab that happy hour drink with your co-worker or you'll realize that your next-door neighbor is actually pretty funny (and also shamelessly watches "Say Yes To The Dress")."
"You might discover different sides to yourself.
It can be easy to default to the "you" that you are around your best friend, even if you're a multi-faceted snowflake of a person. Surrounding yourself with different people more often can allow you to discover a side to yourself you didn't even know existed. Sure, you're a 12-year-old goofball around your best friend, but you might just be a film noir buff in-the-making, too -- and you should allow yourself to try that on for size more often."
What do you think? Would you add any other things?
Tuesday, December 9, 2014
Girl Fight or Cat Fight?
I discuss the latest New Girl episode and how female friendship is portrayed.
The Inquisition of Singledom at Holiday Parties
Not a female friendship-related article, but I'm sure many women can relate to my candid experience of being single around the holidays.
Tuesday, November 25, 2014
In Why Ending A Friendship Is So Much Harder Than Ending A Romantic Relationship, Kat George does a fabulous (and realistic) job pointing out how difficult friendship breakups are, as well as reasons why they are so challenging to experience. I address these issues in my book, including how similar friendships are to romantic relationships in terms of how close we can get to our friend, and how painful and devastating the breakup can feel.
Below are two excerpts from the article:
"Over time, all relationships change. Friends come and go, most of them without much ceremony. One minute you’re partying with Irina, and the next minute you’re brunching with Georgia. There’s no hard feelings, but rather a recognition that as you grow up, schedules fill quickly, and long absences from friends aren’t necessarily earth shattering or revelatory. It’s the circle of social life. But what happens when you consciously and dramatically de-friend someone that was especially close to you is absolutely cataclysmic. When that one person, your BFF perhaps, to whom you text every mundanity of your every day life, who knows you inside and out, whose side you are always by, betrays you, hurts you, or otherwise removes themselves from your life in some very obvious capacity, it can be more destructive that the loss of any romantic partner you’ve ever experienced."
"At the end of a relationship, “getting back on the horse” is one of the best and most helpful things you can do. Starting to date again can be scary, but it’s also wildly fun and at least very distracting. Finding a new friend is not that easy. People just don’t prioritize “new friends” the way they did when they were younger, so between existing friends, personal relationships and careers, it can be very difficult to meet a new potential BFF. There’s no OKCupid for friendship."
Friendship breakups are emotionally tough and that's why it's incredibly important to give yourself time to grieve and process all of your emotions. In my book, I go into more depth about letting go, and helpful ways to do so.
How have you managed a friendship breakup?