I was recently approached by a journalist about what to do when you hate your nickname and your friends continue to use it. This question was unusual and stumped me for a few days. After much thought, I realized this may be something that many women go through, but is rarely discussed. My advice was simple: talk to your friends and be honest about how the nickname upsets/bothers you, and ask them to stop. If they can't honor your request, ask them why not and how they'd feel if the shoe were on the other foot. If they still can't stop using the name that makes smoke come out of your ears, then you may need to re-evaluate your friendships.
Here's her article:
What To do When You Hate Your Nickname by Franki Cookney
Ever since the book came out, I've received feedback about how it's made women think about friendships throughout their lives, as well as who is in their lives now. The goal of this blog is to open up and create a dialogue about friendships: the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Each week I will post my thoughts, experiences, as well as various articles, topics or quotes that I feel are important when examining female friendships. Please feel free to leave comments; I look forward to hearing from you!
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Tuesday, April 26, 2016
Tuesday, April 5, 2016
Finding Friends on a Dating Website? Wait, What?!
Good friends are hard to find. We all know this fact, especially as we get older. In Looking for friends on a dating app is awkward. But it worked. by Abby Green, we get an inside look at one brave woman's experience using Bumble BFF.
An excerpt:
"Meeting new people and facing the fear of rejection doesn’t get easier when it’s platonic rather than romantic, I realized. But on this friend-date, it felt like we were saying what we meant — and romantic dates don’t often feel that way.
With friendship, we have many vacancies and can fill those spots with different types of people. But with romantic love, people are usually looking for one person, which means there’s a lot of pressure to present the best version of yourself on dates."
An excerpt:
"Meeting new people and facing the fear of rejection doesn’t get easier when it’s platonic rather than romantic, I realized. But on this friend-date, it felt like we were saying what we meant — and romantic dates don’t often feel that way.
With friendship, we have many vacancies and can fill those spots with different types of people. But with romantic love, people are usually looking for one person, which means there’s a lot of pressure to present the best version of yourself on dates."
In today's day and age, it seems we're more open to online dating and meeting people in less traditional ways. Why not meet friends this way?
Would you consider trying this app?
Would you consider trying this app?
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