Ever since the book came out, I've received feedback about how it's made women think about friendships throughout their lives, as well as who is in their lives now. The goal of this blog is to open up and create a dialogue about friendships: the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Each week I will post my thoughts, experiences, as well as various articles, topics or quotes that I feel are important when examining female friendships. Please feel free to leave comments; I look forward to hearing from you!
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Tuesday, September 1, 2015
Another Reason I Like Mindy Kaling...
Mindy Kaling Is Right, Friends Are Hard to Find by Dyanne Weiss
The article asks the question that I get asked all of the time: As adults, how do we make friends?
An excerpt from the article:
"Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, has written a lot about the difficulty of making friends. She suggests that people join or form a group that at least have one common interest – e.g., the yoga class, a book group and other things that at least give one exposure to someone new. The key thing is to keep trying, do not be afraid to seek people out (and possibly get rejected), and make the effort to keep the friendship going. Some people never initiate outings, but welcome the invitation; so keep inviting.
Kaling confided to fans at the event, “The only thing I want to do in the next five years is make a new good friend.” I can relate. As we get older, it gets hard to find good friends with are just right for where your life is at are heading and, for Mindy Kaling, being in the public eye does not help."
It does take putting yourself out there to make friends. Another way I've found helpful is meeting people through your friends' friends and getting to know them. This allows your social circle to expand through your various networks of existing friends, as that is most easily accessible to you. The goal is to keep trying and to not give up.
It's also validating to know that even Mindy struggles with this. Hey, Mindy, we could be friends?!