Every now and then, I look at
those around me and wonder about the similarities and differences between
myself and my friends. Those I’ve known
for a long time, there are many similarities due to shared experiences. However, there are also differences when
looking at personalities, career choices and life stages.
Regarding personality, some of my
friends are more shy, while others are more outgoing. Several have a career unlike mine, which
makes conversation and the process of getting to know them fascinating as I
learn about what they do day to day. A
few are engaged and/or married, so there are differences in terms of how we
live our lives and what decisions we are making. Oftentimes, these differences
have added substance to the friendship, while other times, they have created
barriers. Why is that?
Does it affect the friendship if
one person is a lawyer and the other is a stay at home mom? Does it matter if one person is getting a
divorce while the other is getting married?
It’s interesting how these differences can either disrupt the friendship
or make it stronger.
I’ve often heard women say that a
friendship ended because they were “just too many differences” and they could
not get on the same page. Their lives
were going in two separate directions.
Why, for some, does that not matter, but for others, it causes the
friendship to end?
I wonder if it comes down to the
type of friendship (how long you’ve been friends, how close you are, etc.), and
how much you both want to invest in keeping it alive. It takes work, that’s for sure, but sometimes
we let the differences become an excuse for the friendship to fizzle out if our
heart is not fully in it.
Thus, the question remains: do
the differences outweigh the similarities or can friendship love conquer all?
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